Saturday, November 26, 2011

Dysfunctional Families In The Black Culture...

I lived in the metro area of Atlanta most of my life. Majority of the schools I attended and neighborhoods I grew up in were all Black.  Many people in my family grew up without their fathers. Many had deadbeat dads. As a result of absent fathers and dysfunctional relationships it affected the children growing up.  Most of the ladies in my family had babies when they were teens. Most of the guys in my family were involved heavily in the streets and in trouble with the law.  We don't have many high school graduates and only a few have been to college.  It's the norm at family gatherings to see people drunk and high.  I'm not trying to bash my family because I love them & no one is perfect.  The point I'm trying to stress that this isn't normal. This isn't the way a healthy family is supose to function. Unfortunately, you see this alot in the Black Culture. The other day I was visiting family who I haven't seen in years. My son who is 6 years old was very tired. So he laid his head down on his father lap.  This family member said that my son was spoil and that we need to make sure he was tough..Just because he was lying down on his father's lap. Now this person who was given advice has about 8 children and has no relationship with any of them. I sternly and politely told him..That my child is not spoiled. He's well balanced..Well Loved..And just because my child is lying down on his father doesn't mean that he's not tough.  Many black people and men view a male who displays his affection/love for someone as weak.  Which is not true.  That is why many black children grow up without really receiving affection from their parents.  They don't know how to love back and express their love. It affects their childhood and even how they intereact with one another.  Many are searching in the wrong places for love. Thats why many relationships and marriages are in the state that they are. Their is hope.  My husband and I refuse to be another statistic. My husband grew up without his father. But, he had made the decision that he wanted to be a good father and husband.  We display our love for one another and because of that our child feels secure.  I'm just sharing my opinion on this subject because I'm tired of seeing the dysfunction in our families.  Generation after Generation are being affected.  We have to make a choice to break the cycle starting with ourselves!

Sunday, November 13, 2011

Upcoming "NW Georgia Palm" Beauty Pageant in the ATLANTA Area!!!!!

I will be directing the Nw Georgia Beauty Pageant in The Atlanta Area TBA on January 28th 2012(saturday) from 2pm-5pm. This pageant leads to the state and then national level!!! I'm looking for diversity for the upcoming beauty pageant. I'm not the typical beauty queen..So, I would like to encourage Ladies & Girls from Different Ethnic Backgrounds, Cultures, & Religions to compete..It doesn't matter if you're Plus Size or Petite..Beauty comes in all different forms, shapes, and colors!

Info 14 Titles will be awarded!!
"8 Division Queens will be crowned
2 Swimwear Queens will be crowned
2 Model Queens will be crowned
2 Talent Queens will be crowned"
PLUS!! Two Supremes!!
Pageant is Open to Residents of the Georgia Only!
Baby Miss NW Georgia Palm Queen (0-23 Mo)
Teeny Miss NW Georgia Queen ( 2-3 )
Tiny Miss NW Georgia Palm Queen ( 4 - 6 )
Little Miss NW Georgia Palm Queen ( 7 - 9 )
Junior Miss Georgia Palm Queen (10-12)
Teen Miss NW Georgia Palm Queen(13-16)
Miss NW Georgia Palm Queen( 17- 23 Years Old )
Mrs. NW Georgia Palm Queen( 21 -Up & Married )
"Plus 6 Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Titles will be awarded*
1 Little Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen (Swimwear) Ages 0 - 9 years old
1 Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen (Swimwear) Ages 10 - up
1 Little Miss NW Georgia Tropical Queen (Model) Ages 0 - 9 years old
1 Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen (Model) Ages 10 - up
1 Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen (Talent) Ages 0-9
1 Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen (Talent) Ages 10-up
The one Contestant with the highest score in Modeling will have NW Model of the Year added to her banner.
Must enter both competitions to be eligible.
Peoples Choice Voting is $1.00 per vote.
Modeling Talent and Swimwear ARE OPTIONAL
All 8 division Queens & the Model, Talent & Swimwear Queens will receive a beautiful official Miss NW Georgia Palm crown, Banner, and continue on to the Miss Georgia Palm State Pageant on St Simons Island in August! AND all prelim winners are eligible to compete at Nationals in Panama City, Florida.
"You must enter at least 2 of the onstage optional competitions to be eligible for Supreme "
Swimwear & Modeling & Talent OPTIONAL
Little Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen Competition: Ages 0-6
Jr. Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen Competition: Ages 7-12
Miss NW Georgia Tropical Palm Queen Competition: Ages 13-Up
No experience is necessary to compete in the Miss NW Georgia Palm Pageant! It is an at large pageant and open to anyone within the state of Georgia, and goes on to STATE AND NATIONAL SOUTHERN MISS!
The Miss Georgia Palm Scholarship Pageant is designed as a premier pageant system to support Crowns for Education through Scholarships and teamwork to make a difference in the world.
Email the director for your contestant packet  or click on the link below

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Hypocrisy In The Church..What's The Point Of Going?

For years, I had lost a desire to go to church. I would just go through the motions of going there because it was where I felt God wanted me to be during those seasons. Which I desire to be obedient to God even more then my comfort.  Now, don't get it twisted.   My relationship with Christ and being a Christian didn't interfere with my lack of desire of going to church. I was and still is passionately in love with Jesus.  It was evident to all of those who knew me. I was irritated.  There were times when I was going through some serious circumstances as well as many other people. But, most of the sermons were about breakthru in finances and materialism. I felt that hearing sermons on those topics weren't going to change my situation.  There were several other things I could go on and on about. Like the lack of action of reaching out to the community, the fakeness, and lack of genuine love.  But, this blog isn't intended to bash going to church. I enjoy going to church when the word is genuinely preached, delivered without compromise, the pastor's heart is after God, the church is actively involved in reaching out to the community, there is genuine love evident, and assembling together with others to seek God's face. We as people are imperfect so there will never be a perfect church.  But, there should definitely be a standard.  A local church should be a place where people can gather with others to learn more about Christ, be encouarged,  and challenged. Also it should be a place that Believers are equipped and trained to go into their communities and jobs demonstrating the power of Jesus thru their lives.  There are people who are lost and hurting all over the world.  A local church shouldn't be just as a social club. The love of Jesus should be evident in our churches.  I have benefitted greatly from a few close friendships as a result of going to a local church.  These people have been there during difficult times in our lives.  Even though, we live far away from each other we still communicate regularly.  I'm so thankful for those friendships and rejoice in knowing that we can count on our friends.  Through out the bible especially the new testament, it teaches us how a biblical church is supose to function.  So I'm not trying to be picky. I read my bible and if something doesn't line up with it I'm going to question it.  I'm not preaching a sermon but, I will insert a passage of scripture below.

" All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper[ , and to prayer. A deep sense of awe came over them all, and the apostles performed many miraculous signs and wonders. And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had. They sold their property and possessions and shared the money with those in need. They worshiped together at the Temple each day, met in homes for the Lord’s Supper, and shared their meals with great joy and generosity all the while praising God and enjoying the goodwill of all the people. And each day the Lord added to their fellowship those who were being saved."-Acts 2:42-47

We learn from the above scriptures that gathering together with other Believers is a good thing. The Early Church in the New Testament devoted themselves to the teachings of the apostles, they assembled together in prayer, they shared their possessions giving to those in need, they genuinely praised God, enjoyed the fellowship of all people, and because of that they were powerful and received great growth. A strong church is built upon a solid foundation of Jesus Christ. It consists of Pastors and Leaders who are submitted to God's will, who are good shepherds according to the bible, preaching of the gospel, focused on equipping people, authenticy, outreach to the community, and understands the pupose of ministry.  Also, majority of the People in the Congregation are being challenged, edified, on fire, growing spirtually, walking in love, walking in unity, reaching out to others, and picking up their cross.  When a church is functioning the way God intended it to be it affects those who are apart of it and also infiltrates out into community.  I've moved to a new location almost a few months ago.  Although I wasn't looking for a perfect church, there were several things I was looking for in a new church.  My checklist consisted of a pastor that passionate about his relationship with Christ, a place where the gospel is preached/sound doctrine, a multi racial church, realness, a sensing of the Holy Spirit presence, good children's church, equipping of the believers, and heavy involvement in transforming the community! My husband, son, and I have attended this church about six times. So far we absolutely like the church.  Everytime we attend service the worship has been great and there is definitely a sensing of God's presence evident. Also the preaching has been really good. The sermons usually encourages, edifies, and challenge us.  A few times when we attended there were circumstances we we're experiencing in our personal lives that happened to be mention in the sermon. It totally enourage us to keep running the race and to not throw in the towel. The children's church has also been impressive. My son has been learning and challenged.  They have their own Praise And Worship service.  Now I know there may be somethings in the future we won't necessary agree with all the time. Thats okay as long as it doesn't compromise with the standard of whats in that bible.  So I want to encourage those who have had bad experience or want to give up on churches to be encouraged.  Our faith and hope shouldn't be in a Pastor or a Church building in the first place.  Put your hope in Christ, get in your word, and seek him for guidance! I encourage you to continue to walk in love, forgive, and don't separate yourself from other Believers. Live a radical life for Jesus, let his light shine through you, and focus on being his vessel in this world!

Kim Kardashian's Divorce

Several days ago I was about to log into my Yahoo email. Then I saw the news article about Kim Kardashian. Usually, I don't pay attention  to whats going on with the Celebrities because I could care lesss.  Yahoo News stated that she was filing for divorce after 72 days of marriage. I was thinking are you totally kidding me. Then I read further and saw how the wedding caused ten million dollars! I was pretty upset. It's not my money. She can spend her money how she wants. It made me upset that all that money was wasted and there are millions of  people in America struggling financially. Obviously, she must have felt bad after it was reported because I saw reports about her giving the wedding gifts to a charity.  Also, the fact that she wasn't married long was another issue.  Marriage isn't something to be taken lightly. Marriage is a serious, selfless, & sacred commitment. It upsets me how many of these celebrities are so irresponsible. I'm aware they are only human but, they have millions of people who are influenced by them. Where are the good role models? I'm tired of seeing these women carry themselves very loose and engulfed in vanity. I think Kim Kardashian is a beautiful woman so, I'm not jealous or hating on her. It's sad the way she and many other celebrities carry themselves. One day no matter how beautiful you are your looks will fade. There needs to be more to you left then your outer beauty.  So, I really hope she makes wiser decision, strives to be a better role model, and use wisdom when it come to getting married again.

Friday, November 4, 2011

Freedom From The Creamy Crack...

I have finally experience freedom from my hair being addicted to creamy crack!LOL I'm so serious. But, at the same time I'm totally kidding. I remember being a young girl and my mama would straighten my hair with a hot comb on the stove. I had a head full of thick, black, and long hair. Boy, was I scared every time she grabbed that comb and put it through my hair. I could feel the steam rising and tried my best to sit still so, i wouldn't get burnt. When she finished my hair it was so worth it. My hair would be straight until, the humidity of Atlanta's weather attacked it. Once that happen, it would be frizzy and puffy again. By the time I was seven years old, my mama decided to put a relaxer in my hair. I was so excited. I wouldn’t have to go through the torture of having my hair straighten anymore. It would now be straight for a long time. I remember looking in the mirror for the first time after getting my relaxer. I felt so beautiful and was amazed to see my hair. Although, I loved having my hair being relaxed there were many things I didn’t like about it. I usually had my hair retouched every 6-8 weeks. I couldn’t scratch my scalp a few days before I got it. If I did my scalp would burn and I would receive sores in the places that I scratch. It also took a lengthy amount of time to apply and rinse all of it out of my hair. If any of it was left in my hair it could cause ball spots. I also hated the smell. My hair would smell like chemicals for days. When it rain or my hair got wet it would ruin my hair style. Most of my life I relaxed my hair. I was pregnant with my son seven years ago and I didn’t use a relaxer during my pregnancy. I didn’t want to take the chances of using those chemcals while I was pregnant. But, once I delivered him I went back to the Creamy Crack!LOL I was in the valley of decision for a long time, before I actually decided to go totally natural. About seven months ago, I made up my mind to go natural. I was sick and tired of having to put a relaxer in my hair. My hair is so thick and I rarely like relaxing it myself. So I usually went to the hair salon and it was expensive keeping it done. I discussed it with my husband, he was supportive, so I begin doing research on natural hair care. I begin researching information on websites and watching YouTube tutorials. My hair was a few inches below my shoulder. One day I came home from work and decided that I would cut a few inches off. So with the help of my husband, my hair was cut into a bob. I received many compliments but, my goal was to go natural. I knew once I begin the journey of chopping off inches there was no turning back. I made up my mind to decrease my use of blow dryers and flat irons during the transition process. I tried different styles. Some people liked my hair and some wasn’t a fan of it. But, I made up my mind that I was doing it for myself. I wanted my hair to be healthy and to be free of that process. I would read interviews from Biracial and African American celebrities who had curly or kinky hair. Many of them would state that it still isn’t widely accepted in the Entertainment Industry to wear their hair in its natural state. Although there are many African American Women who are now embracing their natural hair. Some are still ashamed and embarrassed to show their hair in its natural state.  As if, they don’t feel beautiful unless their hair is straight. I’ll be honest before I begun this journey I felt the same way too. I was scared to wear my hair in its natural state. I had no idea how I would look. Then I begin to contemplate that God created my hair like this and I wanted to embrace it. I was tired of being in bondage when I go to the beach having to cover my hair or when it was humid outside it would mess up my hair. So for several months I wore different transition hairstyles and micro twists with extensions. I wanted my relaxer to grow out before I decided what to do. For months I went back and forth on what I should do with my hair. Would I do the Big Chop and cut it all off? Or Would I go through the slow process of letting the relaxer grow completely out of my hair? One night sporadically, I decided to take my braids out and then I planned on cutting off  the relaxed hair. I felt like I had some kahunas to do the Big Chop. At about 6:00 a.m. in the morning I cut off all the relaxer from my hair. I had a few inches of new growth. I was in shocked of how my hair was looking as I cut the hair off. When I finished my hair was a super, thick, mini afro. I felt such liberation. I experience a measure of freedom. I looked in the mirror I felt beautiful. I had no make up or earrings on to enhance my beauty.  In the future I will still wear wigs and weaves at times. But, I have been delivered from the creamy crack also known as a relaxer. I know in this blog I picked fun at relaxers but, I don’t condemn anyone who chooses to use it. I’m embracing this journey and the freedom I feel from being natural! Bye Bye Creamy Crack!! My hair no longer needs you!

Eating Fit On A Budget

I know for me it's much harder for me to eat healthy when my money is low.  But, when I do choose healthier eating habits I notice a big difference in how my body functions and my digestive system. Please check out the article below on "Eating Fit On A Budget."

Simple Changes for Eating Fit On A Budget

  • You've been meaning to improve your eating habits and get more exercise for a while now but you don't think you can afford it.
  • Mounting food costs are frustrating you and you don't know if you can really make a change and stick to it.
  • There's not enough time to plan ahead and look at those nutrition guides before you put the food you get into the cart.
  • My family is big; I cannot possible try to feed them a healthy meal!

These are all excuses that have gone through our minds at one time or another to avoid the issue but the reality is that yes, even on a budget and with limited time it is possible to buy and prepare healthy meals for yourself and your family.

The Real Problem...
The two things that are really getting in your way are stress and laziness. As much as we like to think otherwise, it really doesn't take a lot of effort to make small little changes in our diet that can benefit both our budget and our health. Add the jittery mind of a person under stress to this concept and you are making it a lot more complex than it really is.

Here Are A Few Easy Changes You Can Make:

  1. Drop that Soda:
    If you are eating on a budget there is absolutely no reason you should be consuming more than a soda or two a day. In fact let's try and drop that to a soda or two a week! Soda contains excessive amounts of sugar, does little to nothing to decrease thirst (in fact it can increase thirst and the risk of dehydration) and increases blood pressure. Not to mention the continuously rising cost to get it! Replace your quota of pop with drink fruit juice, milk or water all of which are much healthier and cheaper than the average 12 pack.
  2. Bake That Potato or Replace it
    If you are going to have potatoes (which while containing high amounts of beneficial potassium also contain large amounts of starches) eat them baked, not fried and not slathered in oil at a factory ( all French fries and other frozen potato products are high in fats; both saturated and trans). A better option for a similar taste is the sweet potato which is packed with all sorts of vitamins.
  3. Can't Afford Beef?
    A great alternative to hamburger is lean ground turkey, which is half the price (you can get a1 lb. roll for about $1-2), contains less fat and can easily be spread out by throwing a pound in a pot of cooked and flavored rice or pasta.
  4. Rice, the Great Provider
    Rice is one of the simplest to prepare and is the cheapest and most healthful carbohydrate rich food you can find in any supermarket. It also comes in dozens of varieties and flavors giving you the option of using it several times a week without finding it boring.
  5. Give Peas a Chance
    There is no excuse for not having a vegetable with every meal. They are cheap and you can get them frozen for the same price as canned. There's a variety of vegetables you can try and they are available all year round. You can also save money and vitamins by buying them fresh at your local farmers market and there's a good chance they'll taste better too!
  6. Chicken is Good With Everything
    No, seriously; it is. Chicken's milder flavor makes it possible to combine it with most any side dish. If you get a bag of frozen boneless skinless chicken breasts you are saving at least a few dollars vs. the cost of the same amount of beef steaks. This is also true of lean pork steak.

Who said it was difficult to eat fit on a budget? As you can see; It isn't!

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Bullying..Is It A Serious Issue?

Now in the U.S. we have a national month for "Bullying" which is October. I remember being in school growing up.  Kids got ridicule for their clothing, lifestyle, religion, or how they look. I didn't like that. I wish high school was like on "Saved By The Bell."  But, unfortunately the popular kids usually don't hang out with the geeks.  When I was in school during that time bullying wasn't taken serious by most people. But, these last few years due to some kids committing suicide as a result of bullying, we're finally opening up our eyes to this serious issue. I recently watched a special on CNN about "Bullying" it was really troubling.  They had kids from elementary and high school kids sharing their story.  Its time for Parents and Schools to take responsiblity.  Many people are scarred for years as a result of being bullied when they were younger.  I have a child who is nice to everyone and has many friends. He experienced being bullied a few times in kindergarten.  We had to teach him how to defend himself and not be afraid of anyone. Because, I refuse to let my child or any other children I have walk around in fear of another human being. No ma'm! I know of several other parents who kids have experience some form of bullying in elementary school.  As parents we have to be involved in our children life so we can know whats going on. Below I posted a little article on the"Effects Of Bullying" courtesy of stop

Bullying has serious and lasting effects. While these effects may also be caused by other factors, research has found bullying has significant effects for those who are bullied, those who bully others, and those who witness bullying.

People Who are Bullied:

  • Have higher risk of depression and anxiety, including the following symptoms, that may persist into adulthood:
    • Increased feelings of sadness and loneliness
    • Changes in sleep and eating patterns
    • Loss of interest in activities
  • Have increased thoughts about suicide that may persist into adulthood. In one study, adults who recalled being bullied in youth were 3 times more likely to have suicidal thoughts or inclinations.
  • Are more likely to have health complaints. In one study, being bullied was associated with physical health status 3 years later.
  • Have decreased academic achievement (GPA and standardized test scores) and school participation.
  • Are more likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school.
  • Are more likely to retaliate through extremely violent measures. In 12 of 15 school shooting cases in the 1990s, the shooters had a history of being bullied.

People Who Bully Others:

  • Have a higher risk of abusing alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and as adults.
  • Are more likely to get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school.
  • Are more likely to engage in early sexual activity.
  • Are more likely to have criminal convictions and traffic citations as adults. In one study, 60% of boys who bullied others in middle school had a criminal conviction by age 24.
  • Are more likely to be abusive toward their romantic partners, spouses or children as adults.

People Who Witness Bullying:

  • Have increased use of tobacco, alcohol or other drugs.
  • Have increased mental health problems, including depression and anxiety.
  • Are more likely to miss or skip school.

If you have experience being bullied there is hope. You don't have to walk around the rest of your life in torment from your past. Seek the proper counseling to help you cope with this if possible.  You can experience healing, unforgiveness, and hope in Christ. For those of you who grew up as bullies there is hope for you as well. It starts with you making the choice to change.

    Thursday, November 3, 2011

    Why I Love Online Virtual Public School For My 6 yr. old Son?

    My husband and I decided to put our son in an online virtual public school for his first grade year. We have been very impressed. My son has the best of both worlds with learning online and school books in all of his subjects. He is learning so much and it has given me an opportunity to really work on the areas he was weak in. Our desire is for him to have such a strong foundation in learning that will help him for years to come. We've already been on a field trip with many other kids that are enrolled at Georgia Connections Academy and have one coming up. Also, his schooling is free since its an online public school. He has a teacher who calls and emails us to check his progress. His teacher also do weekly live lessons virtually with all of the children in the class. They also mailed us a big box all of his school books, art supplies, science tools, cd-rom, color pencils, markers, crayons, jump rope, yoga dvd, and many other supplies to help with learning for free.  Online every day you see the lessons that he has to do for each subject. Some times he has quizzes, assignments, and tests online. As well as writing in his work books for each subject and sending in assigments to his teacher. I also love the fact that his grades is updated and posted daily for each subject online.  The school has an actual principal and headquaters where you can contact them 5 days a week. Plus I love the flexibility with making our own schedule.  As long as we meet the state requirement weeky. Last week and some of this week he was sick with a stomach bug.  I'm so thankful that he was already at home because he would have been behind if he attended a school outside of our home.  But, because his schooling was online and at home we were able to keep up with his school work.  He is reading many books, spelling, and writing words with confidence. He is also learning so much in social studies, science, language arts, art and his favorite math.  He is also required to do physical education (P.E.) at home for a certain amount of time each week. One of his favorite activity is going bicycling and soon he will play on a basket ball team at a local recreation center.  We plan on him returning back to a regular public school in the 2nd or 3rd grade. But, I'm so thankful that parents now have a choice to send their children to online virtual public school for free.  It is now provided in most states. For more information go to

    The Rise Of Superficial Beauty

    I remember years ago a friend of mines attempted to commit suicide. But, thank God she didn’t die. When I went to visit her she was concerned that she needed her makeup. She was already a beautiful girl. I was sadden by the fact that she was close to death, her life was in chaos, and her concern was her appearance. Before I go any further let me make this clear I’m not against wearing makeup or looking beautiful. I reflect back years ago at a church I once attended. I was apart of the dance ministry. Once practice was finished many of us would change our clothes and freshen up our appearance. Some of the teens and young girls who barely started puberty would be in the mirror applying their makeup. Some of them had beautiful skin naturally and didn’t feel complete unless they had on makeup. We also discussed the views of different body images. Their was one teen who talked about how she didn’t have the perfect body but, was content with it. She also, stated that when she becomes an adult her husband would have to love her the way she is. Then their was another young girl who was a preteen at the time.  She explained to us that when she becomes an adult if her breast were still small she would consider getting implants. I’m not against plastic surgeries are bashing people who desire to have it. My concern is these girls were young and their focused should have been on more important things in life. But, in this society and including many women in churches we’re too consumed by our outward appearances. While our inner beauty is dull and fading. Where is our character? Where is our modesty? Where is our morals? Where is our integrity? One day our outter beauty and youthful appearances will fade.  We admire celebrities like Nicki Minaj whose breast and butt are super fake. We admire Pamela Anderson who looks like a fake plastic Barbie. We look up to Beyonce, Rhianna, Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, Kim Kardashian, Trina, and Paris Hilton who dresses like prostitutes. Many of these celebrities are air brushed and appearances are altered in photos and videos to look more appealing. We wonder why many men look at women as only sex objects and are disrespectful towards us because of the way we carry ourselves. Fathers and Mothers you have a huge responsibility of teaching your daughters how a woman should carry herself and whats really important in life. Women of God we have to step it up in our churches. It’s not about our cute outfits and how good our hair looks. We have to be an example to these young ladies and quit acting shallow. We’re in need of better role models in the entertainment industry who aren’t superficial and dress like prostitutes. Once again I’m not against outer beauty. One of the reason that I became a Beauty Queen is that I believe in being confident but, also being modest at the same time. Their is nothing wrong with wanting to look and feel beautiful.  But, it shouldn't be the focus of our life and who we are. The vain queen in the story of "Snow White" was jealous of Snow White and she was driven by vanity.  Some of us may think we're not that extreme with looks.  But, I want to encourage all of you ladies to really examine how you view yourself and the image that you portray to others.

    Wednesday, November 2, 2011

    I Escaped From Prison....

    Yes, you’ve read the title right. I escaped from prison several years ago. Even though, I’m only 28 years old.  The type of Prison that I’m talking about is not a physical place or location. For most of my life I was in an invisible prison.  The definition for the word prison is a state of confinement or captivity. Although, I was walking around physically free I was tormented by fear.  I remember being so tormented with fear at night that I would sneak into my parents room and sleep on the floor. I was afraid of the dark. Ironically, I begin to crave watching scary movies. I was addicted to reading horror books “Fear Street” and “Goosebumps” series. When I became a teenager I would be afraid to stay home by myself especially at night. Sometimes I was so scared at night I would sneak into my younger sister’s bed so I could sleep until the age of 18. It got worse all of these tormenting thoughts would run through my head and I would imagine seeing stuff. A few months before I turned 19 years old I moved away to Alaska and got married to my husband who was in the Air Force. He worked the grave yard shift.  I would stay home all night by myself.  Boy, was I horrified I couldn't even enjoy the day time because I was afraid of being home alone at night. I would turn on every light, constantly look around the corners, and turn the television up loud. When I had our car I would leave during the middle of night and go to the grocery store just to get out of the house. Some of you who may be reading this now are probably thinking this is too extreme. I don't have that problem. Some of you may not be held captive by fear like I was. But, you may be bound by Eating Disorders, Alcohol, Hatred, Drugs, Cigarettes, Addictions, Anger, Lust, Depression, Suicidal Thoughts, Low Self Esteem, Insecurity, Cutting, Shopping Lifting, Clubbing, False Religions, Lying, Stealing, Homosexuality, Lesbianism, Rejection, Jealousy, and the list goes on. The story doesn't stop here and it definitely gets better. I had other issues as well but, the fear was the biggest one. I got tired of my life being the way it was at the age of 19. So, I decided to give my life to Christ for real. I made up my mind. I knew Jesus was the only one who could change my life. He could set me free from this spiritual and mental prison. I knew that the devil was the one tormenting me with these thoughts. In the bible, John 10:10 says “The Thief(devil) comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I(Jesus) have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” So I begin to develop a relationship with God. I begin to study my bible and do what I learned. I learned how to pray. I begin to sense God speaking to me. The things I was learning in the bible begin to transform my thinking. I would listen to sermons on cds and television that dealt with my issues. I begin to really realize that Jesus didn’t just die on the cross so I could have a ticket to Heaven. But, he also paid the price for my  sin, healing, freedom, and deliverance from the devil. I begin to see changes in my life. It wasn't overnight. But, I finally was experiencing freedom. And now when the thoughts came to me. I knew exactly what to do. So now it's been a few years. Since I have escaped from prison. That is why I ride the Jesus Bandwagon. No amount of therapy or pills could have done what Jesus did for me. For all of you who are reading this. There is nothing to hard in your life that Jesus can't fix. Even if you brought it upon yourself. But, you have to make up your mind. Will You Continue to let the Devil Enslave You or will You Turn to Christ and Receive Spiritual Freedom?? If you need prayer or have questions please feel free to contact me at

    *True Friendships Are Like Rare Gems*

    I have come to a conclusion from observing people and including my own personal experiences from the past several years. In my opinion a good percentage of people do not know how to be a true friend or have any true friendships. Some people may assume I'm talking about high school students & children. Many of them are still learning and unfortunately mimic what they see from their parents.  I have observe people from different ages, cultures, races, careers, and religions. A good friendship isn’t solely based on the amount of years you have been friends. I’m far from being an expert!LOL But, you don't have to be a Rocket Scientist to understand what makes a friendship works. What are some characteristics of a true friendship? Below I listed a few key ingredients in my opinion that is a good recipe for a friendship.

    -Loyalty & Honor: For example my sister is also my friend. We were close growing up. But, sometimes we got on each others nerves! Our parents taught us how to treat one another. We didn't go outside of our house gossiping about one another and dragging each others name through the mud. I didn't allow other people to dog my sister out in my face or join in with them.

    -Communication & Understanding: A good relationship requires good communication and understanding. There is a way of saying and doing things. The first year of my marriage my husband and me argued a lot. Mostly due to my mouth!LOL I learned to communicate properly, utilize self-control, and made the effort to put myself in his shoes. Our relationship became much better. It took time but, now it's been a few years since we really argued. We have learned to let things go and to acknowledge when we‘re wrong.

    -It takes 2 to make a relationship work: A friendship is a give and take relationship. Both friends are contributing to make the relationship work. You are there for one another.

    -Love, Forgiveness, and Acceptance: It's easy to tell someone you love them. But, your actions is what really counts. We are all built differently and shouldn’t expect people to have our exact views. Everyone is far from perfect and we all make mistakes. We don't have to forget but, we should forgive one another.

    -Honesty and Trust: A good friend allows you to be honest with them and to be yourself. I pay close attention when I hear someone talk badly about their friend or reveal to me secret information about a person. I make a mental note because, that usually means that person can't be trusted with confidential information. Friends also speak the truth in love when needed. Also, don't believe anything you hear about a friend unless you have facts. That is how rumors are started. We as Christians are held to a higher standard when it comes to our Brothers & Sisters in the Body of Christ. We should regularly examine ourselves and friendships. Remember no one is perfect. But, gossiping, back biting, and slander is all fleshy

    I believe that if we would apply these ingredients we will experience better friendships. Some of my closest friends are people my age, twice my age, different races, & from different cultures. But, they all bring something special to my life in different ways. I appreciate and genuinely value each of them. If you haven't been a true friend there is no condemnation. But, take action and make some changes. Please examine your past relationships and you will probably learn something for new potential friendships come your way.

    Why Did I A Become A Beauty Queen?

    I never had any desire to be a beauty queen. Like most people I had the stereotypical view of a beauty queen. I wanted nothing to do with that.  My previous supervisor Debra from P.C. Surgery Center mentioned to me a few years ago about entering beauty pageants. But, it wasn't me. I'm not a fan of make up and looking fake!LOL Then about a year ago my group S.A.L.T. went to minister thru music at a local church in Panama City. The director of that event was Keia May who was also a reigning beauty queen. After talking to her it was like something ignited in me about wanting to be a beauty queen.  I've always had a heart to reach out to people and to be a good role model. Also,  I'm passionate about being a light and showing the love of Christ. So, I begin this journey at 27 yrs. old of competing in several beauty pageants at different levels. I have several different titles and trophies. I stay true to myself in beauty pageants. The only makeup I wear is lipstick. I believe in being confident and won't do anything that compromises with my beliefs.  I'm excited about the journey and platform that I have embraced.  I want to be a voice that touches a generation...Thats why I became a beauty queen!

    Poision or Fruit?

    In general People run their mouths too much..I was reading the book of proverbs online in the message version..I really like the modern interpretations of wisdom it gives..The last few years I have really learned about controlling my tounge..& I'm benefitting from it greatly..What's coming out of your mouth is it Poison of Fruit? I'm not condemning anyone or pointing any fingers..We all can benefit from these quotes below!

    -Listening to gossip is like eating cheap candy;
    do you really want junk like that in your belly? (Proverbs 18:8)

    - Words kill, words give life;
    they're either poison or fruit—you choos
    e. (Proverbs18:21)

    - Gossips can't keep secrets,
    so never confide in blabbermou
    ths. (Proverbs 20:19)

    - Answering before listening
    is both stupi
    d and rude. (Proverbs 18:13)

    -Words satisfy the mind as much as fruit does the stomach;
    good talk is as gratifying as a good harve
    st. (Proverbs18:20)

    - The person who tells lies gets caught;
    the person who spreads rumors is ruine
    d. (Proverbs 19:9)

    - Troublemakers start fights;
    gossips break up friendship
    s. (Proverbs 16:28)

    --Gracious speech is like clover honey
    good taste to the soul, quick energ
    y for the body.(Proverbs16:24)